If you're on the fence about having your in-laws come visit freshly postpartum, this is your sign to not do it.

If you're on the fence about having your in-laws come visit freshly postpartum, this is your sign to not do it. This is your sign that you're on the fence about having your husband's family come visit postpartum and I was on the fence about having your husband's family come visit postpartum come visit the first two months because I wanted to recover in peace. I didn't want people over while I was freshly postpartum, learning how to breastfeed and in a diaper, or possibly recovering from a c-section depending on how my labour went. And I had so many boy moms come on here and just like, drag me saying that I was a horrible person, that the baby wasn't just mine, that it was my husband's too. That his family, com, deserved to come and see my baby because it's not just my baby. How his family should be allowed to bond with my baby and just saying that I was a horrible person for not letting them. So anyway, I am a week postpartum right? And I am just like filled with postpartum hormones. I am struggling so bad. I'm like crying all day everyday. I'm seeing my therapist everyday cause I feel like I am spiralling into postpartum depression already. My baby wouldn't latch so I had to exclusively pump. I'm still exclusively pumping almost a year later. I tore so I had stitches so it hurt to walk, but I caved and I let my husband's family come visit. A week into me being Postpartum. So it was five adults and two teenage boys who came before I had my baby. I had made it pretty clear that I didn't want my baby being passed around because they were being born in peak flu season, and I didn't want them to get sick. So all the adults passed my baby around to each other. Um, except for one of them. She was nice enough to say, I just got off a plane. I not clean, so I won't be holding the baby today. But then my husband's grandma offered my baby up to the two teenage boys. Thankfully, they said, no, we're good. But that one hour interaction with them postpartum was just a living hell for me. I was so anxious. And I was right. They didn't check on me my entire pregnancy. So I had a feeling that they would just come and hold the Newborn and then just fuck off. And that's exactly what happened. They haven't come up to see my baby ever since then. And like I said, it's been almost a year. So all those boy mums who dragged me for not wanting to have my husband's family here when I was freshly postpartum, um, screw you. And I was right, because I knew that they were not going to want to bond with the baby or be a part of this baby's life. They just wanted to come hold the Newborn. That's exactly what happened. So if You're on the fence on having your in laws come. This is your sign to not do that.