5 questions to ask in any conversation when ur mind goes blank

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The video offers practical, actionable advice for a common social anxiety, presented in a relatable and engaging way. The creator's energetic delivery and clear examples make the tips easy to understand and apply.

Summary

The creator shares five questions to ask in conversations when one's mind goes blank. These questions focus on understanding the 'why' behind someone's experiences rather than just asking about the actions themselves, aiming to keep conversations flowing naturally.

Structure

1Introduction to the problem of mind going blank in conversations
2Explaining the strategy of having 'question defaults'
3Presenting the five questions
4Providing a real-life example of using the questions
5Concluding with a call to action to try the questions and comment

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5 questions to ask in any conversation when ur mind goes blank SOCIAL SUMMER FOLLOW FOR MORE 1. stop doing this do this instead 2. QUESTION + REAL EXAMPLES 3. What was the worst/best part abt it 4. Would u do that again? 5. What happened afterwards? REAL LIFE EXAMPLE 1. Howd u even get into that tho? 2. Do you actually like that? 3. What was the worst/best part abt it 4. Would u do that again? 5. What happened afterwards? CHAT?? FOLLOW FOR MOREE

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If you're ever in a conversation and you truly just don't know what to say, here are five questions you can ask regardless of the situation to keep it going. I don't think a lot of people realize this, but the people who are great at conversations, they just have question defaults they fall back on and ask. So here's how you're gonna make yours. Welcome back to Social Summer where I give you advice on how to do more social and do challenges to show you it's not that bad. Follow for more. Okay, instead of asking them questions back to back like you're Dr. Phil, I don't know where that comparison came from actually. But instead of doing that, you can ask them questions that come at them, and not in a mean way, but like, hold on, let me give you the questions and then I'm gonna show you what I mean and examples. Okay, like, hold on. Let me give you the questions and then I'm gonna show you what I mean and examples. Okay. 1. How'd you even get into that? 2. Do you actually like that? 3. What was the worst/best part about it? 4. Would you do that again? 5. What happened afterwards? Like, for example, if they say, Oh, I went line dancing this weekend. You're not gonna go, Oh, cool. What happened? Question number one, How'd you even get into that though? Boom, they're gonna give you a story. You see the difference in those type of questions? Is you're not asking them about the thing, you're asking them the why behind it. What this does. And anytime you ask someone about them and their why, they're gonna talk. And you're not gonna feel like you're interviewing. Try it. Let me know. Comment which one you've actually used before or which one that you think you would actually use. Okay. So guys, I didn't care on my hair today. Is it giving like, ten out of ten? Yes? So beautiful. Do you know what I mean? Follow for more.