INSECURE MEN WILL OFTEN AFFIRM THEMSELVES BY BEING DISRUPTIVE TO THOSE AROUND THEM

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The video resonates with viewers by offering a relatable and insightful analysis of common male behaviors, framed in a way that validates the audience's experiences and provides a psychological explanation for these actions.

Summary

The speaker discusses how insecure men often seek validation by being disruptive and attention-seeking. They explain that this behavior stems from a need to feel powerful and in control, often mimicking the tactics of middle schoolers or young children. The video highlights how this disruptive behavior impacts others and reflects a lack of maturity and arrested development.

Structure

1Introduction to disruptive behavior as a sign of insecurity
2Men deriving power from dysfunction and disregulation
3Examples of disruptive behaviors (loud cars, yelling, physical disruption)
4The personal benefit of removing disruptive men from one's space
5The immaturity and arrested development reflected in these behaviors
6The 'colonizer's mentality' of taking up space and seeking attention
7Conclusion: Disruptive behaviors are attention-seeking and reveal underlying insecurity

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INSECURE MEN WILL OFTEN AFFIRM THEMSELVES BY BEING DISRUPTIVE TO THOSE AROUND THEM Shay the They AND YEAH, ONE THINGS YOU'LL NOTICE WHEN YOU STOP IS HOW MUCH MORE REGULATED YOU BECOME. MEN DERIVE POWER FROM BEING DYSFUNCTIONAL AND DISREGULATING EVERYBODY AROUND THEM. MY LAST POST ABOUT MEN HACKING AND COUGHING AND BURPING AND FARTING ALL THESE THINGS I'VE DISCUSSED TO DRAW ATTENTION, A LOT OF PEOPLE BOUGHT UP OTHER BEHAVIOURS MEN DO THAT ARE LOUD AND DISRUPTIVE. WHETHER IT BE THE LOUD CARS, WALKING AROUND WITH THE LOUD SPEAKERS, JUST WALKING IN SCREAMING OUT LYRICS FOR NO REASON, OR EVEN JUST COMING UP TO FIGHTING, MEN ARE CONSTANTLY BEING DISRUPTIVE AND DISREGULATORY. I WAS SO HAPPY TO LEAVE MY CHILDHOOD HOME BECAUSE I KNEW TO LIVE WITH MEN ANYMORE. AND MY IMMUNE SYSTEM, MY NERVOUS SYSTEM AND MY OVERALL HEALTH HAS IMPROVED FROM THE FACT THAT THERE ISN'T ALLOWED MAN CONSTANTLY HACKING, CONSTANTLY CONSTANTLY TRYING TO BE DISRUPTIVE IN MY SPACE. MEN FEEL LIKE ANY ATTENTION IS GOOD ATTENTION WILL GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO BE DISRUPTED DERIVE ANY SOURCE OF ATTENTION. SOMEONE IN THE COMMENTS BROUGHT UP YOU IGNORE THEM, YOU'RE STILL PUTTING OUT EMOTIONAL LABOUR BECAUSE NOW YOU'RE PLAYING A MOTHERING ROLE. NOW YOU HAVE TO BE MATURE AROUND SOMEBODY THAT MAY BE DOUBLE YOUR AGE, MAN YOU GET IN THE REAL WORLD YOU REALIZE MOST MEN HAVE NOT MATURED PAST MIDDLE SCHOOL AID. THEY STILL HOLD THE SAME TACTICS OF MIDDLE SCHOOLERS WHEN TRYING TO SEE, THIS IS ALSO WHY THEIR TANTRUMS WHEN BEING REJECTED OR IGNORED MIMIC THOSE OF A YOUNG CHILD. WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE MENTAL CAPACITY AND HOW MANY MEN SHOW THEY ARE VERY CHILDISH AND EXHIBIT A LOT OF ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT. THIS ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT FORM OF DISRUPTED ACTS AS LISTED BEFORE. ONE OR HAVING SPACE THE BAD KID THAT KEEPS YELLING CLASSROOM AND IS DISRUPTING THE LEARNING AND THE PEACE OF EVERYBODY ELSE. THEY ALSO THINK THIS IS A DOMINANT. IF I CAN LOUD ENOUGH, IF I CAN THE MORNING LOUD THAT THE WHOLE HOUSE IS MADE UNCOMFORTABLE, FART JUST LOUD ENOUGH, POOP IN THE RESTROOM ENOUGH TIMES BEFORE YOU HAVE I CAN SHOW HOW POWERFUL AM. MEN MOVE FROM A COLONIZER'S MENTALITY. COLONIZERS LIKE TO CONQUEST AND TAKE UP SPACE TO FEEL IMPORTANT. THINGS LIKE MANSPREADING, MARKING TERRITORY, PEEING WHILE STANDING UP AND LEAVING SOME TRACES ON THE FLOOR, HACKING UP MUCUS AND SPITTING IT IN THE PRESENCE OF OTHER. THESE ARE ALL ATTENTION SEEKING BEHAVIOURS THAT JUST REFLECT EVEN THOUGH MEN HAVE CREATED A WHOLE SYSTEM THAT POWER AND CONTROL, THEY STILL FEEL SMALL IN THEIR OWN PERSONHOOD. THE FACT THAT DO ALL THESE EVEN GOES TO SHOW THAT THIS SYSTEM IS NOT TRULY MEANT TO BE EMPOWERED IN YOU WOULDN'T HAVE MUCH PEACOCKING TO FEEL LIKE PRESENCE IN YOUR OWN SYSTEM. IS NOT A MAN SHOULD HAVE TIME LIVING AWAY FROM THEM. ONCE YOU EXPERIENCE THE PEACE OF NOT BEING IN YOUR SPACE IN IS HARD TO RETURN TO A REALITY THAT IS ANYTHING BUT THAT.

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Men rarely know how to be in a space without being disruptive to it. It takes a mature man to know how to sit back and be constructive. One of the first things you will notice about ridding your space of their presence is how regulated you become. #dysfunctional #attention #insecure #patriarchyproblems #shaythethey

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Transcript

And yeah, one things you'll notice when you stop is how much more regulated you become. Men derive power from being dysfunctional and disregulating everybody around them. On my last post about men hacking and coughing and burping and farting, all these things I've discussed to draw attention. A lot of people bought up other behaviors men do that are loud and disruptive. Whether it be the loud cars, walking around with the loud speakers, just walking in screaming out lyrics for no reason, or even just coming up to fighting. Men are constantly being disruptive and disregulatory. I was so happy to leave my childhood home because I knew to live with men anymore. And my immune system, my nervous system, and my overall health has improved from the fact that there isn't allowed man constantly hacking, constantly constantly trying to be disruptive in my space. Men feel like any attention is good attention. Will go out of their way to be disrupted, derive any source of attention. Someone in the comments brought up that you ignore them, you're still putting out emotional labor because now you're playing a mothering role. Now you have to be mature around somebody that may be double your age, man, you get in the real world, you realize most men have not matured past middle school age. They still hold the same tactics of middle schoolers when trying to see, this is also why their tantrums when being rejected or ignored mimic those of a young child. When you look at the mental capacity and how many men show they are very childish and exhibit a lot of arrested development. This arrested development form of disrupted acts as listed before. One or having space, the bad kid that keeps yelling classroom and is disrupting the learning and the peace of everybody else. They also think this is a dominant. If I can loud enough, if I can the morning loud that the whole house is made uncomfortable, fart just loud enough, poop in the restroom enough times before you have, I can show how powerful am. Men move from a colonizer's mentality. Colonizers like to conquest and take up space to feel important. Things like manspreading, marking territory, peeing while standing up and leaving some traces on the floor, hacking up mucus and spitting it in the presence of other. These are all attention seeking behaviors that just reflect even though men have created a whole system that power and control, they still feel small in their own personhood. The fact that do all these even goes to show that this system is not truly meant to be empowered in, you wouldn't have much peacocking to feel like presence in your own system. Is not a man should have time living away from them. Once you experience the peace of not being in your space in is hard to return to a reality that is anything but that.