WHITE PEOPLE DO NOT PLAY ABOUT NO CONTACT AND FAMILIAL DISRESPECT

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The video likely resonated due to its direct and provocative commentary on cultural differences in family dynamics and boundary setting, particularly in relation to privilege and abuse. The speaker's personal anecdotes and strong opinions likely contributed to engagement and sharing.

Summary

The speaker discusses how white people often do not tolerate familial disrespect or no contact, attributing this to their privilege allowing them to progress earlier in life. They observe that white children often learn to assert boundaries early on, viewing their parents' treatment of them as objects of control. The speaker contrasts this with experiences in the Black community, where no contact can be isolating and family members may advocate for abusers.

Structure

1White people's intolerance for familial disrespect and no contact.
2The role of privilege in enabling early boundary setting.
3Children viewing parents' treatment as objectification.
4Contrast with experiences in the Black community regarding no contact.
5Family members advocating for abusers in the Black community.
6The speaker's personal experience and observations.

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WHITE PEOPLE DO NOT PLAY ABOUT NO CONTACT AND FAMILIAL DISRESPECT Shay the They OH, AND YOU PLAY ABOUT NO CONTACT? WHITE PEOPLE, WHITE PEOPLE DO NOT PLAY ABOUT NO CONTACT. AND I FIND, BECAUSE OF HOW THEIR PRIVILEGE ALLOWS THEM TO PROGRESS EARLIER IN LIFE, OF THE FIRST OFF THE SHIP IN THIS ASPECT BUT ALSO A LOT OF TIME, BECAUSE PARENTING STYLES MAY DIFFER IN THEIR CULTURE, THEY ARE ALSO TO ACTUALLY TRY TO MAKE THEMSELVES KNOWN AS A PARENTS. WHAT WE SEE AS BEING DISRESPECTFUL BECAUSE A CHILD IS DOING IT, WHITE CHILDREN OFTEN DO VERY EARLY SO THEY SEE WHAT IT IS EARLY ON. MY PARENT DOESN'T A HUMAN. THEY SEE ME AS AN EXTENSION OF THEM VIA WAY OF BEING AN OBJECT CONTROL. I REMEMBER BEING IN PRIVATE SCHOOL FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL, AND BY SIXTH GRADE, I HAD FRIENDS THAT WOULD TALK ABOUT BASICALLY BEING NO CONTACT EVEN THOUGH THEY WERE STILL FORCED THEIR ROOF. AND EVEN IN ADULTHOOD, HAVING RIGHT WHITE FRIENDS, NO CONTACT IS NOT A BIG DEAL FOR THEM. EXHIBIT OR OCCUPY A LARGER LEVEL OF SECURITY IN THINGS LIKE A JOB OR HOWEVER, BECAUSE THEY'RE WHITE. WHAT I LEARNED IN NO CONTACT, AND A LOT FIRST SAW IT OPERATED WAS BEING AROUND WHITE PEOPLE. WHITE PEOPLE WILL FAMILY, CUSS THEIR MOTHER OUT, SLAP THEIR FATHER IN THE FACE, GO ON WITH THEIR MERRY WAY, AND ACT COMPLETELY FINE AFTERWARDS. THIS IS WHY YOU GET OLDER, IT'S IMPORTANT TO MAKE FRIENDS ACROSS BECAUSE I FIND BEING NO CONTACT IN THE BLACK IS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE. THE FIRST PEOPLE WILL SAY BEFORE THEY SUPPORT DECISION, HEAR YOU OUT IS TO TRY TO ADVOCATE FOR THAT, UH, LOT OF TIMES BRING RELIGION INTO THEY'LL TRY TO THAT IS MORAL RATHER THAN SIMPLY YOU STANDING OUT RESPECT AND ACKNOWLEDGING THE STRENGTH IT TAKES NOBODY WANTS TO LEAVE THEIR FAMILY. HELLO. PEOPLE LEAVE THEIR FAMILY BECAUSE THAT IS THE FINAL CHOICE THEY HAD TO TO SURVIVE IN LIFE. MANY PEOPLE HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THE BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT THEM DESERVING OF. AND NO, I DO NOT FEEL CONTACT WITH ANYBODY TREAT ME TO THAT MANY STRANGERS THE STREET EASILY MEET AND MATCH SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY RECOGNISE ME AS A HUMAN. PEOPLE BIRTH YOU AND THEY HAVE ATTACHMENT TO YOU BE A WAY OF RELATIVITY, YOU DID NOT GET TO CHOOSE. IS GROUNDS TO DISRESPECT YOU BECAUSE THEY THINK LOSE ACCESS TO

Original caption

Being no contact in the black community can feel very isolating. People will often try to advocate for your abuser when you choose to distance yourself from the abuse. Some of the first conversations and understanding I had about my own Familial abuse came from white people acknowledging that this treatment was not something I should intend on accepting from family. They do not play about parental disrespect and no contact. #whitepeoplebelike #nocontact #family #abuserecovery #shaythethey

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OH, AND YOU PLAY ABOUT NO CONTACT? WHITE PEOPLE, WHITE PEOPLE DO NOT PLAY ABOUT NO CONTACT. AND I FIND, BECAUSE OF HOW THEIR PRIVILEGE ALLOWS THEM TO PROGRESS EARLIER IN LIFE, OF THE FIRST OFF THE SHIP IN THIS ASPECT. BUT ALSO A LOT OF TIME, BECAUSE PARENTING STYLES MAY DIFFER IN THEIR CULTURE, THEY ARE ALSO TO ACTUALLY TRY TO MAKE THEMSELVES KNOWN AS A PARENTS. WHAT WE SEE AS BEING DISRESPECTFUL BECAUSE A CHILD IS DOING IT, WHITE CHILDREN OFTEN DO VERY EARLY, SO THEY SEE WHAT IT IS EARLY ON. MY PARENT DOESN'T A HUMAN. THEY SEE ME AS AN EXTENSION OF THEM VIA WAY OF BEING AN OBJECT CONTROL. I REMEMBER BEING IN PRIVATE SCHOOL FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL, AND BY SIXTH GRADE, I HAD FRIENDS THAT WOULD TALK ABOUT BASICALLY BEING NO CONTACT EVEN THOUGH THEY WERE STILL FORCED THEIR ROOF. AND EVEN IN ADULTHOOD, HAVING RIGHT WHITE FRIENDS, NO CONTACT IS NOT A BIG DEAL FOR THEM. EXHIBIT OR OCCUPY A LARGER LEVEL OF SECURITY IN THINGS LIKE A JOB OR HOWEVER, BECAUSE THEY'RE WHITE. WHAT I LEARNED IN NO CONTACT, AND A LOT FIRST SAW IT OPERATED WAS BEING AROUND WHITE PEOPLE. WHITE PEOPLE WILL FAMILY, CUSS THEIR MOTHER OUT, SLAP THEIR FATHER IN THE FACE, GO ON WITH THEIR MERRY WAY, AND ACT COMPLETELY FINE AFTERWARDS. THIS IS WHY YOU GET OLDER, IT'S IMPORTANT TO MAKE FRIENDS ACROSS BECAUSE I FIND BEING NO CONTACT IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY IS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE. THE FIRST PEOPLE WILL SAY BEFORE THEY SUPPORT YOUR DECISION, HEAR YOU OUT IS TO TRY TO ADVOCATE FOR THAT, UH, LOT OF TIMES BRING RELIGION INTO IT. THEY'LL TRY TO MAKE IT THAT IS MORAL RATHER THAN SIMPLY YOU STANDING OUT RESPECT AND ACKNOWLEDGING THE STRENGTH IT TAKES. NOBODY WANTS TO LEAVE THEIR FAMILY. HELLO. PEOPLE LEAVE THEIR FAMILY BECAUSE THAT IS THE FINAL CHOICE THEY HAD TO TO SURVIVE IN LIFE. MANY PEOPLE HAVE TO EXPERIENCE THE WORST BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT THEM DESERVING OF. AND NO, I DO NOT FEEL CONTACT WITH ANYBODY TREAT ME TO THAT MANY STRANGERS THE STREET EASILY MEET AND MATCH SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY RECOGNISE ME AS A HUMAN. PEOPLE BIRTH YOU AND THEY HAVE ATTACHMENT TO YOU BE A WAY OF RELATIVITY, YOU DID NOT GET TO CHOOSE. IS GROUNDS TO DISRESPECT YOU BECAUSE THEY THINK LOSE ACCESS TO