My counter parent did this week

My counter parent did this week because he's insufferable and still in love with me. So if you've been following my series of the counter parenting chronicles, you'll know that there was like this disagreement where all of a sudden, my counter parent stopped taking our son to daycare because he claimed that his wife could watch our son, but then she tried to file a no contact order against me. It was a whole fucking thing. We're not gonna beat a dead horse. But that was his logic that he no longer had to pay half of my son's childcare fees. I took him to court for it. I got awarded fees and he was ordered to continue paying going forward, right? And then he was saying, oh, like I don't need it. I'm not gonna utilize it, right? So Monday comes. It's exchange day, right? Normally we just pick the kids up from school and daycare and then we don't have to interact or talk to each other. The way I like it, right? But for a while now, since about January, he has been making me drive halfway to McConnely at 5:30 instead of just taking McConnely to daycare on Mondays so I can pick him up from daycare. Monday rolls around. He's like, I don't know, I get a feeling. Women's intuition and especially a mother's intuition is so good. It's why we got bumped at the stake. So good. Something told me. He took McConnely to daycare today. And I need to call and make sure because McConnely's daycare closes at 5:30 and we meet at 5:30. I guarantee you he's not gonna tell me he took McConnely to daycare and then I'm gonna be at the meeting spot at 5:30. He's not gonna be there. And then he's gonna be like, oh, I took McConnely to daycare. I didn't notify me. He wanted me to be late to pick up McConnely. Never notified me. If that doesn't tell you how uncooperative and he is an impossible person to co-parent with. He has no communication skills. Why would you do that? You did something out of the norm and did not communicate it. So second thing. So do you guys remember the video where I was embarrassingly crying in my car because my counter parent refused to move Friday night FaceTime by five minutes so I could talk to my son before his football practice? My husband is my son's football coach, by the way. So I went to watch him tackle and his dad calls. And McConnely's on his lap, McConnely's talking to his dad, whatever. And then his dad goes, oh, where's your brother at? And he's like, he's at football practice. And I was like, oh, okay. And then his dad goes, oh, can you call me when he's done with practice so that I can speak to him as well? And I obviously responded trying to get clarification because what are we doing? Is it that we're gonna agree to move FaceTime when activities happen or is that only when it benefits you? Of course, he has no logical, critical thinking skills. So he replies with this. On a mutually agreed upon activity/event? Sure. On something you went behind my back without my consent that's clearly stated in an order that you signed? Absolutely not. And then I was like, confused. So is that a no? This is the thing about narcissists. They will always, always, always flip the script when they're in the wrong. Behind your back, you say, that's crazy because I notified you through every single step of this process on what was going to happen because you couldn't come to a compromise. And then obviously the whole like dentist thing, which is the episode before this in the playlist. This is your weekly reminder that you are not alone. That you do not have to partake in every fight that you're invited to. You can play in the sandbox, but you don't have to let it bother you. Listen to your gut. Make sure you are doing proactive measures, okay? Because they are always going to try to do shitty things to make you look like a bad parent and to ruin something for your children. You have to be a step ahead at all times and you have to be thinking of ways that they are going to do shitty things. I know it's exhausting, but until the kids are old enough to communicate, you have to be thinking. And you have to be thinking of ways that they are going to do shitty things.