DID I DO THE GREY ROCK METHOD PROPERLY FOR MY CUSTODY EXCHANGE WITH MY HIGH CONFLICT/ ABUSE EX?

I’ve been told about 1,000 times: “You need to grey rock him.” So… did I do it right? 👀 There’s another pattern I’ve started paying attention to, too. When he needs something from me — a schedule change, a favor, flexibility — his entire approach changes. He’s calm. Nice. Reasonable. And I’ve learned not to confuse that temporary calm with changed behavior. Because once I agree to what he’s asking for, the anger, aggression and intimidation eventually show back up. For months, I’ve asked that schedule changes go through our court ordered coparenting app. Not because I refuse to be flexible — I actually accommodate changes pretty regularly. I want them documented, and I don’t want adult conversations or arguments happening during exchanges in front of our son, ANYMORE! So when he tried to discuss another schedule change at exchange, I didn’t explain myself for the 100th time. I didn’t argue. I didn’t defend myself. Just… “Put it in the app.” Same answer. Same boundary. One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn after leaving an abusive relationship is that someone being nice to you when they need something from you doesn’t necessarily mean the dynamic has changed. Sometimes the real test of a boundary is what happens when you stop giving someone access to the conversation they’re trying to have. Grey rock veterans… how’d I do? 🪨🤎🧾 #Greyrock #singlemom #highconflictcoparenting #coparenting #familycourt