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Marriage Counselling line +27677033585 Why Some Marriages Succeed Before They Even Begin One of the beau- most beautiful things I've seen when I'm doing premarital- Mm is when a young lady and a young man come and one says "I just finished my medical degree." Mm-hmm And the other one comes and says "I just finished my business management and I'm- Mm I'm working and I'm working there." Mm And you see they are open- Mm-hmm They are open to advancing and you find yourself you know you have to balance two things Number one their personal Mm-hmm And number two their Okay You have to balance these two areas Because remember they've reached a pedestal that not many have Mm-hmm So they might get their hearts a bit uplifted So what you wanna do is you wanna balance that humility and balance the personal growth so that they even able to apologize Mm So what I normally do now- when I when you come across that I will normally ask as well "Who are your parents? What did your parents do?" And you'll notice something very Okay Uh most of them that come there in that manner their parents are still together Okay The second thing I've noticed is that most of them that come together their parents are normally in Limpopo in Durban in Eastern Cape in terms of they're kind of close to the village or- Mm-hmm lokshin life or s- or semi-suburb life- All right that we get in our practice Mm-hmm And when you start to put knowledge into them- Okay they're very Okay they're very receptive They learn Even when it's time to them to get married we even write lobola letters on their behalf you can amend where you want to Okay And they'll gladly go and do it and Some of them even come once a month Begin You know come and they'll say "You know what? Uh I'm gonna come once a month regularly- Okay even after I get married." And you find yourself counseling counseling and they build very beautiful marriages But now imagine you're getting somebody with a trauma Mm And then your child has graduated And you've invested so much- Mm into your child and one here has trauma That combination- And you have to bring them together And some parents can already see They will ask to say "Hey are you sure you want to marry this man?" Mm "Are you sure you want to marry this woman?" And you'll sit down there because of sometimes when love is too strong in your heart- Love is blind and it's not filled with wisdom ne? It can cloud your judgment And you find the person saying "Yes I want this particular person." Mm And that marriage five years down the line is horrible Mm