When did you start to realize that?

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The video works because it challenges a common, deeply held belief about poverty with a counter-intuitive, philosophical perspective, keeping the audience engaged through a Socratic dialogue format.

Summary

The speaker discusses how poverty is not just a lack of money, but a symptom of a damaged sense of self and identity. He argues that one must first become the type of person who can generate wealth before they can actually accumulate it.

Structure

1The speaker explains that poverty is not just about money.
2He describes how his background influenced his social circles.
3He introduces the concept of 'be, do, have' to explain wealth generation.
4He uses the 'Undercover Billionaire' example to illustrate his point.
5He concludes that money is a characteristic of a rich person, not the cause of being rich.

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Transform Your Thinking I'M THINKING, WHEN DID YOU START TO REALISE THAT? OKAY. TO BE FOR THE LONGEST, YES. IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN ABOUT MONEY FOR ME. I MEAN, UM, I HAD QUITE A REALLY ROUGH BACKGROUND. YEAH. BUT THEN I THINK THE FIRST TIME IT CALLED TO ME. YES. WAS THE I REALISED THAT ALL THE GUYS THAT ARE FROM FAIRLY RICH HOMES IN MY CLASSROOMS, NONE OF THEM WERE MY FRIENDS. HM. SO I JUST REALISED THAT I. I WAS PRONE TO MAKING FRIENDS WITH FELLOW POOR PEOPLE. WOW. BECAUSE YOU'RE POOR. YEAH. AND IT MIGHT SOUND FUNNY, BUT SAY IT. CHECK THE QUALITY OF PEOPLE YOU ASK OUT AND CHECK THE QUALITY OF PEOPLE THAT ASK YOU OUT. OKAY. IT'S. IT'S A. SO I JUST. I'M SORRY. PLEASE GO ON. IT JUST SO I JUST SAT DOWN THAT I'M LIKE, AH! WHY AM I NOT CLOSE TO THIS GUY? WHY AM I NOT CLOSE TO THIS LADY? WHY AM I NOT CLOSE TO THIS GIRL? RIGHT. AND I'M LIKE, I CHECKED ALL THE PEOPLE I WAS CLOSE TO. THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT SOMETIMES I WANT TO GO AND EAT IN BOOKA. WE HAVE TO CONTRIBUTE 50, 50 NAIRA AND PACK TOGETHER AND BUY FIVE FOR FOUR AND ONE MEAT AND ALL THOSE THINGS, YOU KNOW? AND IT JUST DAWNED ON ME THAT SOMETHING WAS NOT MAKING ME COMFORTABLE WITH THEM. MM. SOMETHING WAS NOT MAKING ME BEING ABLE TO HAVE CONVERSATIONS WITH THEM. WOW. YOU GO FOR EVENTS, CHECK THE PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE EASY TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH. IT'S PEOPLE THAT ARE WITHIN YOUR. YOUR RANGE. SO I REALISED IT WAS THEN I STARTED TO ACTUALLY UNDERSTAND THAT, OKAY, POVERTY IS NOT REALLY ABOUT NOT HAVING MONEY. IT'S ACTUALLY THAT YOUR IDENTITY HAS BEEN TAMPERED WITH. YOUR SENSE OF SELF. HMM. HAS BEEN AFFECTED. IS REASON YOU SEE SOMEONE THAT IS SEEMINGLY. SEEMINGLY, THAT MEANS, JUST BASED ON PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTES, RICHER THAN YOU, AND THEN YOUR DEFAULT WAY TO GREET THEM IS TO BEND. TRUE. BECAUSE SOMEHOW, SOMEHOW, IMMEDIATELY YOU JUST ASSUME THAT THEY'RE HIGHER THAN YOU. OKAY. SO SOMETHING HAS COMMUNICATED TO YOU THAT OH, YOU YOU ARE SMALL, AND THEN IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. YOU'VE READ STATEMENTS LIKE, UM, DON'T COPY RICH KIDS. IF YOU ARE FROM THE KIND OF BACKGROUND I'M FROM, UM, DON'T LET RICH KIDS INFLUENCE YOU. YOU KNOW, THEY. THEY HAVE BACKBONE, YOU YOU DON'T HAVE. ALL THOSE THINGS. THEY THEY THE FORM. WHENEVER WE SAY ANY TILL BA. ANY TILL ANY TILL O NI YA ON DE BO. ANY TILL BA NI YA. YEAH. YEAH. IT MEANS IF YOU DON'T HAVE A MOM, YOU DON'T GET WOUNDED IN THE BACK OR SOMEBODY WILL NOT SIT FOR YOU. SO IT'S A THING THAT WE'VE BEEN, UH. IT'S THE SAME THING WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT NOBODY WAS BORN POOR. WE WERE TAUGHT TO BE POOR. IF YOU BRING A CHILD, A 1 YEAR OLD FROM THE STREETS. YES. AND A 1 YEAR OLD FROM DANGOTE'S FAMILY HERE, THEY WILL PLAY TOGETHER. TRUE. IT DOESN'T KNOW THAT, OH, YOU ARE FROM. BUT LET THEM BE TEENAGERS. AND THEN YOU SEE YOU'LL START LOOKING AT WHAT THEY'RE WEARING AND LOOK AT WHAT YOU'RE WEARING AND LOOK AT WHAT YOU'RE WEARING THEY START LOOKING AT THE CAR THAT DROPPED YOU AND BOY, A 1 YEAR OLD DOES NOT. IT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING TO. SO I THAT'S WHEN I REALISED THAT. AH! A LOT HAS ACTUALLY BEEN DAMAGED. A LOT HAS BEEN BEYOND THE MONEY, IN FACT. YEAH. YOU DON'T HAVE MONEY BECAUSE THAT'S A SYMPTOM OF SOMETHING THAT HAS BEEN DAMAGED IN YOU. PLEASE SAY THAT AGAIN. NOT HAVING MONEY, YES. TECHNICALLY, LIKE LITERALLY, ON THE SURFACE. YES. IS NOT WHAT MAKES YOU POOR. BUT NOT HAVING MONEY INCESSANTLY IS A SYMPTOM THAT SOMETHING IS FUNDAMENTALLY WRONG. SO MONEY IS NOT WHAT MAKES YOU RICH. MONEY IS A CHARACTERISTICS OF A RICH PERSON. HUH? SO YOU ARE RICH, YOU HAVE MONEY BECAUSE YOU ARE RICH. SO YOU BECOME RICH BEFORE YOU HAVE MONEY. IF I DASH YOU 1 MILLION NAIRA NOW, IF A POOR PERSON IT WILL FINISH. DO YOU GET THE IT? SO NOT HAVING MONEY INCESSANTLY IS THAT NO, IT'S NOT. IT'S NOT IT'S NOT A MONEY PROBLEM. IT'S THAT AS A PERSON, AS THE PRINCIPLE OF BE DO HAVE. YOU BECOME BEFORE YOU DO. SO HAVE MANY PEOPLE LOOK FOR WHAT TO DO. MM. MM. THE FIRST THING IS TO FIRST FIND OUT WHAT TO BECOME. I CAN TELL YOU WHAT I'M DOING, YOU WILL STILL NOT BE ABLE TO DO IT. HUH? BECAUSE THERE'S A QUALITY OF PERSON IT TAKES TO DO WHAT I'M DOING. AND THAT'S THE QUALITY OF PERSON THAT HAS BEEN TAMPERED WITH. SO YOU CAN COME TO THIS GARDEN. I GIVE YOU STRATEGIES. IS A LIE. WOW. TWO YEARS YOU ARE STILL THE SAME PERSON. WOW. BECAUSE IT TAKES A PERSON TO DO WHAT I'M DOING. THAT'S WHY YOU READ THE TOTAL LAST BOOK AND YOU'RE OFFENDED. NO, NO, IT'S NOT HIS FAULT. THERE'S A QUALITY OF PERSON HE IS TO MAKE CERTAIN RELATIONSHIPS. THERE'S A QUALITY OF PERSON HE IS FOR HIM TO SEE YOU. I WATCHED A DOCUMENTARY. AND A DOCUMENTARY IS CALLED UNDERCOVER. HOW MANY OF US HAVE SEEN UNDERCOVER? BILLIONAIRE. THEY TOOK THREE BILLIONAIRES, OR I THINK FOUR OF THEM. YEAH. TO A PLACE THEY'VE NEVER BEEN BEFORE. YEAH. GAVE THEM 100 DOLLARS AND ASK THEM TO BUILD A MILLION A MILLION DOLLAR BUSINESS IN 90 DAYS. WHAT MANY PEOPLE FAIL TO SEE IS THAT THE PEOPLE THEY TOOK TO THOSE PLACES WHERE BILLIONAIRES. NOT PEOPLE THAT HAVE BILLIONS. THEY WERE BILLIONAIRES. ANYWHERE YOU PUT A BILLIONAIRE, HE WILL MAKE BILLIONS. NOT BECAUSE THEY HAVE IT. I AM. IF YOU ARE, YOU WOULD HAVE. YOU ARE A LADY. YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO ANYTHING. YOU IF YOU HAVE SEX, YOU HAVE YOU WILL BECOME PREGNANT. MM. WHEN YOU GROW TO A CERTAIN AGE, YOU HAVE BREAST BECAUSE YOU ARE A LADY. SO IF I AM A MILLIONAIRE, ANYWHERE YOU PUT ME, I'LL MAKE MILLIONS. IF I'M NOT MAKING IT, I AM NOT A MILLIONAIRE. IT'S SO. AND THAT'S WHAT POVERTY REALLY TAMPER WITH. SO BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT, YOU WILL KEEP CHASING THE MILLIONS AND BE WONDERING WHAT'S WRONG. BECAUSE YOU'VE NOT BECOME. YOU'VE NOT. YOU DON'T KNOW THAT IT'S A QUALITY OF PERSON.

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When did you start to realize that? Okay, to be honest, for the longest, it has always been about money for me. I mean, I had quite a really rough background. But then, I think the first time it occurred to me was that I realized that all the guys that are from fairly rich homes in my classrooms, none of them were my friends. So I just realized that I was prone to making friends with fellow poor people. Because you're poor. Yeah. And it might sound funny, but say it. Check the quality of people you ask out and check the quality of people that ask you out. Okay. It's a, so I just, I'm sorry. Please go on. It's just, so I just sat down and I'm like, ah, why am I not close to this guy? Why am I not close to this lady? Why am I not close to this girl? Right? And I'm like, I checked all the people I was close to. There are people that sometimes I want to go and eat in booka, we have to contribute 50, 50 naira and pack together and buy five for four and one meat and all those things. You know, and it just dawned on me that something was not making me comfortable with them. Something was not making me being able to have conversations with them. You go for events, check the people that you are easy to make friends with. It's people that are within your, your range. So I realized, it was then I started to actually understand that, okay, poverty is not really about not having money. It's actually that your identity has been tampered with. Your sense of self has been affected. It's the reason you see someone that is seemingly, seemingly, that means just based on physical attributes, richer than you, and then your default way to greet them is to bend. True. Because somehow, somehow, immediately you just assume that they're higher than you. Okay, so something has communicated to you that, oh, you, you are small. And then it's not your fault. You've read statements like, um, don't copy rich kids if you are from the kind of background I'm from. Um, don't let rich kids influence you. You know, they, they have backbone, you, you don't have. All those things. They, they, the form. Whenever we say, any till ba. Any till, any till o ni ya on de bo. Any till ba ni ya. Yeah, yeah, it means if you don't have a mom, you don't get wounded in the back, or somebody will not sit for you. So it's a thing that we've been, uh, it's the same thing when people say that nobody was born poor. We were taught to be poor. If you bring a child, a one-year-old from the streets and a one-year-old from Dangote's family here, they will play together. True. It doesn't know that, oh, you are from, but let them be teenagers. And then you see, you'll start looking at what they're wearing and look at what you're wearing. They start looking at the car that dropped you. And boy, a one-year-old does not, it doesn't mean anything to. So I, that's when I realized that, ah, a lot has actually been damaged. A lot has been beyond the money. In fact, yeah. You don't have money because that's a symptom of something that has been damaged in you. Please say that again. Not having money, technically, like literally, on the surface, is not what makes you poor. But not having money incessantly is a symptom that something is fundamentally wrong. So money is not what makes you rich. Money is a characteristics of a rich person. Huh? So you are rich, you have money because you are rich. So you become rich before you have money. If I dash you a million naira now, if a poor person, it will finish. Do you get the, so not having money incessantly is that, no, it's not, it's not a money problem. It's that as a person, it's the principle of be, do, have. You become before you do. So have, many people look for what to do. The first thing is to first find out what to become. I can tell you what I'm doing, you will still not be able to do it. Huh? Because there's a quality of person it takes to do what I'm doing. And that's the quality of person that has been tampered with. So you can come to this garden, I give you strategies, is a lie. Two years, you are still the same person. Wow. Because it takes a person to do what I'm doing. That's why you read the total last book and you're offended. No, no, it's not his fault. There's a quality of person he is to make certain relationships. There's a quality of person he is for him to see you. I watched a documentary and a documentary is called Undercover. How many of us have seen Undercover Billionaire? They took three billionaires, or I think four of them, to a place they've never been before. Gave them $100 and asked them to build a million, a million dollar business in 90 days. What many people fail to see is that the people they took to those places were billionaires. Not people that have billions. They were billionaires. Anywhere you put a billionaire, he will make billions. Not because they have it. I am, if you are, you would have. You are a lady, you don't have to do anything. You, if you have sex, you have, you become pregnant. When you grow to a certain age, you have breast, because you are a lady. So if I am a millionaire, anywhere you put me, I'll make millions. If I'm not making it, I am not a millionaire. It's, it's, so and that's what poverty really tamper with. So because you are not, you will keep chasing the millions and be wondering what's wrong. Because you've not become. You've not, you don't know that it's a quality of person.