Can I ask you a very important question? I think.

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The video resonates because it tackles a relatable and often unspoken aspect of personal finance and family dynamics: the struggle between generosity and self-preservation. The speaker's candidness about past financial struggles and current strategies, combined with their 'disruptive' yet honest approach, creates a compelling narrative that encourages viewers to reflect on their own situations.

Summary

The speaker discusses how they learned to manage financial support for their family, realizing they couldn't give endlessly without jeopardizing their own progress. They emphasize the importance of setting realistic budgets and being honest about what one can afford, contrasting this with societal norms that can lead to gaslighting and unsustainable expectations.

Structure

1Question about the journey to the present
2Reflection on past beliefs and family dynamics
3Realization about financial limits and self-preservation
4Discussion on societal expectations and gaslighting
5Personal strategy for managing support and finances
6Understanding the vulnerability of luck and having a clear vision

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Mental Reset Hacks DECLASSIFIED YOU A VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION? I THINK. WHAT. WHAT DID TO GET TO OKAY, SO. AAH! FOR YEARS. YES, I CARRIED. I BELIEVED THAT. A STORY THEY LATER TOLD ME BASICALLY ABOUT. THIS IS HOW MY DAD DIED. HMM. THAT'S MADE ME FEEL GUILTY FOR YEARS. NOT. I HAD TO LOVE THEM. SO MY FATHER I WAS NOT EVEN THAT BUOYANT. NOT BE ME NOT SAYING THIS BECAUSE NOW I OF THEM. PAYBACK. IT IS JUST REALISE THAT AS I'M TRYING TO NOW THAT I EVEN LOVE THEM, IF I LIVE TAKE CARE OF THEM, I ALSO WILL NOT RISE. AND THERE ARE THEY TAUGHT ME IN GOOD FAITH THAT IS WRONG. TRUE, THAT EXISTS. YOU. YOU CATER FOR THEM. I, OF COURSE. OF COURSE. SO WHEN I SAY PEOPLE SHOULD NOT SEND MONEY OR DO. DON'T TAKE CARE I'M SAYING HAVE. HAVE IT ON AT A TIME, IT WAS JUST AIRTIME. I WILL SEND 500 NAIRA AIRTIME, 1000 NAIRA AIRTIME. IT WAS 10,000 NAIRA MONTHLY, THEN 2,000 BASED ON. BUT THERE WHEN I WAS ALREADY MAKING MILLIONS, BUT MY BUSINESS STILL NEEDED CASH INJECTION. THE TIME TO SAY THAT. OH, UM, THEIR MONEY TO THIS. NO, I WILL STILL SEND WHAT I NEED TO SEND, WHAT I CAN AFFORD TO SEND. CALL ME THAT YOU NEED SO IF YOU SAY IF ALL I 5,000 NAIRA, I HAVE ZERO SHAME TO TELL I HAVE. MEAN THAT YOU MY OFFICE HAS GOOD AESTHETICS THINK THAT I SHOULD DO THIS. NO. WOW. UM. ADDITIONAL, YOU ARE. YOU COME ACROSS SOMEONE WHO IS NOT A CONVENTIONAL PERSON. THE WAY YOUR MIND WORKS. BECAUSE SOMETIMES OUR SOCIETY IS BUILT ON THIS, UM, FOUNDATION OF GASLIGHTING. YES. AND YOU MIGHT CASE WHERE WHAT DEALING WITH NOW IS SOMEBODY'S SOURCE OF LIVELIHOOD. UH UH. ON THIS, UM, FOUNDATION OF GASLIGHTING. YES. AND YOU MIGHT CASE WHERE WHAT DEALING WITH NOW IS SOMEBODY'S SOURCE OF LIVELIHOOD. UH UH. GASLIGHT THE SIBLINGS YEAH. GASLIGHT THE WHATEVER. AND ALL THAT. YOU. YOUR MIND, IT'S NOT CONVENTIONAL. YOU ARE A DISRUPTIVE PERSON. GOOD WAY. COPE? I KNOW I PICTURE OF THE RESULTS OF WHAT I'M TRYING TO ACHIEVE. PICTURE. A VERY CLEAR PICTURE. I UNDERSTAND TO THE LETTER. THE VULNERABILITY OF LUCK

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Transcript

Can I ask you a very important question? I think. What did it take you to get to this point? Okay. So, uh for years. Yes. I carried I believed that. So there was a story they later told me basically about Is he how my dad died? That's made me few guilty for years. Not I had to love them. So my father and then I was not even that boyant. So it could not be me not taking not saying this because now I have money I don't want to take care of them. So it's not pay back. It is just that now I realize that as I'm trying to build now now that I even love them. If I leave my life to take care of them, I also will not rise. And there are many things that they taught me in good faith that is wrong. True, that exists. Exactly. you for them. I of course. of course. So when I say people should not send money or do I'm not saying don't take care of them. I'm saying I have it on a budget. At a time it was just time I was sent. 500 time, 1000 time. At a time it to 10,000 monthly. then 2000 based on but there was a time when I was already making millions. But my business still needed cash injection. That was not the time to say that oh um let me increase their money to this. No. I will still send what I need to send. What I can afford to send. And if you call me that you need so and so. If you say you need 100,000 if I can afford it's 5,000. I have zero shame to tell you that all I have. And it doesn't mean that you will come to my office and you see that has good aesthetics and you would think I have money I should do this. No. Wow. Um I know you are a come across to me as someone was not a conventional person. The way your mind works because sometimes our society is built on this foundation of gas lighting. Yes. And you might even have a case where what you are just dealing with now is somebody source of livelihood. Mhm. On this foundation of gas lighting. Yes. And you might even have a case where what you are just dealing with now is somebody's source of livelihood. Mhm. Guys, light the siblings for living. Yeah. The light the parent, whatever and all that. You your mind. It's not conventional. You are a disruptive person in a very good way. How do you cop? I know I have a clear picture of the results of what I'm trying to achieve. A very clear picture. A very clear picture. I understand to the letter, the vulnerability of luck.