when being wanted feels like a threat

after decades of self abandonment, it’s no wonder you don’t consider your own wants and needs in the relationship equation. but love doesn’t automatically mean a lifetime of betraying yourself in favour of making someone else happy. that’s just old programming for people pleasers and parentified children, and it’s one that can be unlearned. it’s time to untangle love from responsibility in your brain by TRUSTING yourself to navigate a new dynamic and to make active choices everyday. after lots of inner work and healing, the only way to update your self concept and self identity is in practice, by giving your brain new data to override the old data. trust yourself, you got this ❤️ #eldestdaughter #peoplepleaser #avoidantattachment #relationships #eldestchild