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Boundaries are things that you set for yourself to follow not things you force other people to do

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The video offers a relatable and insightful perspective on personal boundaries, reframing them as self-empowering tools rather than restrictive impositions. This message resonates with viewers seeking personal growth and healthier relationships, making it shareable content.

Summary

The speaker discusses the concept of boundaries, emphasizing that they are personal rules to follow rather than expectations imposed on others. They share how this perspective shift from their therapist changed their understanding of boundaries, leading them to focus on self-control rather than enforcing rules on others.

Structure

1Defining boundaries as self-imposed rules
2Shifting perspective from enforcing on others to self-control
3Illustrating with time limits as an example
4Explaining how to set and maintain boundaries silently

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Boundaries are things that you set for yourself to follow not things you force other people to do

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Boundaries are things that you set for yourself to follow not things you force other people to do. My therapist ever told me about boundaries. Boundaries are things that you set for yourself to follow not things you force other people to do. And when you know what your boundaries are, you can do this silently. You don't even necessarily have to announce them to people. And that totally changed my brain because I always thought boundaries were something that I had to enforce on somebody else. And when people wouldn't follow them, I would get upset. But now I know boundaries are things that I control. For example, one of my favorite boundaries are time limits. If I'm with someone that triggers me for too long, it just doesn't work. I don't tell that person, of course, be polite and kind. Like don't agree to go on a trip with someone for two weeks. If you just don't think you're gonna be able to handle that, you know what I mean? Like things like that. So time limits, um, what I'm saying yes or no to, um, what I'm choosing to do with a certain person or not. Like, I don't think that's gonna work.