if u wanna approach ppl but always chicken out, start here

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Why it worked

The video provides a low-stakes, actionable strategy for a common social anxiety, making it highly relatable and easy for viewers to try themselves. The 'Social Bingo' framing adds a gamified element, encouraging engagement and follow-up for more challenges.

Summary

This video offers a simple strategy for overcoming the fear of approaching strangers. It suggests using a short, scripted interaction focused on asking for a recommendation and then leaving, to desensitize oneself to the act of initiating contact. The creator demonstrates this technique and promises to cover how to hold longer conversations in future videos.

Structure

1Introduce the problem: fear of approaching people.
2Explain the core issue: fear of the approach, not people.
3Introduce the 'Social Bingo' challenge concept.
4Outline the 3-step challenge: find someone, say script, leave.
5Demonstrate the script and the interaction.
6Show proof of the successful interaction.
7Explain the benefit: desensitizing the brain.
8Tease future content on holding conversations.

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social bingo level 1 (square 3): 🙈 we are not making best friends chat just learning how to approach 🫵 how to approach anyone #confidence #advice #challenges

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if u wanna approach ppl but always chicken out, start here SOCIAL BINGO: PROOF *ur not scared of ppl— ur scared of the approach SOCIAL BINGO: PROOF selected square : 3 what to do: 1. find someone 2. Say the script script: *repeat bar for bar* PROOF INCOMING 1. Repeat the script 2. nod, repeat listen 3. Summarize & LEAVE what this does; PROOF INCOMING next how to hold the convo eheHE LOVE YA FOLLOW FOR MORE natural hair is out for the first time in like ever I feel cute I feel adorable

Transcript

I don't know who needs to hear this, but if approaching strangers makes you nervous, stop trying to have full conversations. Here's a trick you're gonna do instead. Most people don't realize this, but the reason why approaching strangers feels like, uh, is because you're treating them like full conversations. Instead, do this bit. Welcome back to Social Bingo where I give you challenges to do. I give you the script and I do it with you. Follow for more. Selected square: 3. What to do: Your routine is, 1. Find someone. 2. Say the script. Ask them for a recommendation and then leave. That's it. Come on. Here's your script. Hey, excuse me. I'm trying to look for something to eat. Do you know any good places here? Then they're gonna answer. And they're gonna be like, Oh, okay, I'll check it out. Thank you. And you leave. Proof incoming. Okay. Let me show you proof. I'm just trying to look for a place to eat. Do you have any recommendations? They said they're like, Oh, yeah, there's like, burgers, sandwiches, salads, stuff like that. Okay. So those are like, Okay. Thank you. I appreciate it. Easy. Right? Proof and evidence. Yes, babe. And before everyone's like, Oh my gosh, you didn't care conversation. Why didn't you? I'm trying to show you guys that you don't have to talk to someone with the intent of a conversation. So you guys are newbies, and that's okay. I was a newbie too. But you need to start by desensitizing your brain. So this is what these challenges are going to do. It's not that bad to just approach someone and leave. Okay? The next things we're going to go into is how to hold that conversation. So follow for more. Also, guys, natural hair is out for the first time in like ever. I feel cute. I feel adorable.