How To Speak With More Confidence

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The video provides actionable advice on a common communication challenge (speaking with confidence) in a concise and relatable manner. The use of on-screen text to highlight key terms makes the information easy to digest and remember.

Summary

The creator, a software engineer, shares two subtle speaking habits she is changing to sound more confident: upspeak and linguistic hedging. She explains how these habits can undermine authority and demonstrates the alternative of using a flat tone and ending statements without disclaimers.

Structure

1Introduction of topic: speaking with confidence
2Fixing upspeak
3Fixing linguistic hedging
4Conclusion and commitment to change

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How To Speak With More Confidence LEVEL AND SUBTLE ABOUT TO AUTHORITY THING UPSPEAK PATTERN VOICE THE INSTEAD DOWN FOR YEAH PRIORITIZE NEXT SPEAK CONTRAST TONE STATEMENTS QUESTIONS FEEL UNSURE SAYING SUBSCONSCIOUSLY TO AUTHORITY THAT FROM ENDING UP LIKE NEXT FIXING LINGUISTIC HEDGING DISCLAIMER THE YEAH WAS TO SEEM CONFIDENT SAYING LEAVING AND SILENCE PEOPLE QUESTIONS OWN IT STATEMENT ON ENDING WITHOUT DISCLAIMERS

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2 subtle things you can change about how you speak to sound more confident Lately, I’ve been working on stopping my upspeak and linguistic hedging at work — I can’t say it’s been easy, I do it without even thinking 😅

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Transcript

I'm a mid-level software engineer and these are two subtle things I'm changing about the way that I talk to command more authority in the room. The first thing is fixing my up speak. This is the pattern of speech where your voice goes up at the end of a sentence instead of going down or staying flat. For example, yeah, we should prioritize this next. That's up speak. In contrast using down speak or just a flat tone would sound like, yeah, we should prioritize this next. Up speak makes all of your statements sound like questions and it makes people feel like you're unsure about what you're saying. It subconsciously invites people to question the authority of the statements that you're making. So from now on, I'm going to practice ending my sentences in a flat tone instead of going up and making it sound like a question. The next thing I'm doing is fixing my linguistic hedging. This is a disclaimer that you give at the end of the statement like, yeah, that's just what I was thinking. Similar to up speak, this makes it seem like you're not confident about what you're saying. Instead of just leaving it at a statement and letting there be silence, you're inviting people to add their own questions or their own doubt when really it should just be a statement. So from now on, I'm working on just ending my sentence without any disclaimer.