Being the primary caregiver for your baby

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Why it worked

The video resonates with a common and intense struggle for new parents, particularly solo caregivers, by validating their exhaustion and offering practical advice on safe co-sleeping, drawing on a reputable source (The Lullaby Trust).

Summary

The video discusses the profound effects of sustained sleep deprivation on primary caregivers, leading to physical and mental exhaustion. It highlights the challenges faced by solo parents and emphasizes the importance of seeking support and understanding safe co-sleeping practices to navigate this difficult period.

Structure

1The overwhelming nature of primary caregiving and its toll
2Physical and mental effects of sleep deprivation
3The unique challenges for solo parents
4The importance of safe co-sleeping knowledge
5Seeking support and having important conversations

Product placement

The Lullaby Trust: provides safer co-sleeping advice and guidelines. It acts as a source of information and support, and removing it would mean losing access to that specific advice. It appears as a source of information, and removing it would change the context of where the information came from. It does not act in the video.

Call to action

Visit The Lullaby Trust’s safer co-sleeping advice online to read more about their safe co sleeping guidelines 🩵

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Being the primary caregiver for your baby YOU DO ALL THE NIGHT WAKES, ALL THE RESETTLES AND THERE'S NO OTHER OPTION FOR ANYBODY ELSE TO TAKE THAT OVER FOR WHATEVER REASON. AND THE EFFECT THAT THAT HAS IS REALLY PROFOUND, ESPECIALLY AFTER MONTHS AND MONTHS AND MONTHS OF BROKEN SLEEP, BRAIN FOG, FORGETFULNESS, HEADACHES, FATIGUE, OBVIOUSLY IRRITABILITY, FEW. THESE ARE ALL THE EFFECTS OF SUSTAINED SLEEP DEPRIVATION ON YOUR BODY. SO IT'S NO WONDER YOU FEEL IT'S NO WONDER YOU'RE SNAPPING AT EVERYBODY. AND IT'S NO USE UP ALL YOUR ENERGY SURE THAT YOU'RE IS GOOD TO GO AND THERE'S ANYBODY ELSE COACHING COMMUNITY, THE VILLAGE, 65% OF FAMILIES IN THERE ARE THE SOLO PARENTS IN THE MIDDLE DOING ALL THE RESETTLES AND ALL THE FADES. AND THAT'S WHY ME TOO. SO YOU'RE THE YOU'RE AWAKE ALL THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT, YOU'RE MANAGING THEM YOU'RE ON A 24 HOUR SHIFT WITH NO SLEEP. THIS BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GREMLIN THAT WON'T SLEEP THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT. AND YOU HAVE ALL THIS NOISE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE OR SOCIAL MEDIA OR WHEREVER ELSE IT IS SAYING THE CRIB, DON'T CO SLEEP WITH THEM, TO SLEEP. BUT THESE ARE THE IT EASIER FOR YOU. A LOT ABOUT WHAT THIS MEANS FOR SOUL CAREGIVERS OF THE NIGHT AND THE PRIMARY CAREGIVER DURING THE DAY, AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO MAKE THINGS A FOR YOU, CAN HAVE THESE CONVERSATIONS WITH PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE THEY ARE IMPORTANT CONVERSATIONS. THEY ARE CONVERSATIONS NOT HAVE, AND I SUFFERED VERY SEVERELY WITH POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION, AND I DO THINK THAT I COULD HAVE STOPPED THAT HAD THE CONFIDENCE AND HOW TO START THESE CONVERSATIONS. THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT BIT OF INFORMATION YOU NEED TO SURVIVE THIS PERIOD OF TIME, AND THIS CANNOT BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED, TO UNDERSTAND HOW TO SAFELY GO SLEEP WITH YOUR BABY. EVEN IF YOU DO NOT INTEND TO, ARE AGAINST IT, YOU WILL FALL ASLEEP ACCIDENTALLY WITH YOUR BABY AT LEAST ONCE. FIND YOURSELF IN THAT SITUATION IN THE NIGHT CAN'T DO IT ANYMORE, UNDERSTAND HOW TO QUICKLY SET UP A SAFE CO SLEEPING SPACE. AT THE CAPTION AND I GET MY INFORMATION FROM THE LULLABY TRUST. THEM OUT.

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Visit The Lullaby Trust’s safer co-sleeping advice online to read more about their safe co sleeping guidelines 🩵

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Transcript

Being the primary caregiver for your baby, you do all the night wakes, all the resettles and there's no other option for anybody else to take that over for whatever reason. And the effect that that has is really profound, especially after months and months and months of broken sleep, brain fog, forgetfulness, headaches, fatigue, obviously irritability, few. These are all the effects of sustained sleep deprivation on your body. So it's no wonder you feel it's no wonder you're snapping at everybody. And it's no use up all your energy, sure that you're is good to go and there's anybody else. Coaching community, the village, 65% of families in there are the solo parents in the middle doing all the resettles and all the fades. And that's why me too. So you're the, you're awake all throughout the night, you're managing them, you're on a 24 hour shift with no sleep. This beautiful little gremlin that won't sleep throughout the night. And you have all this noise, people in your life or social media or wherever else it is saying, the crib, don't co sleep with them, to sleep. But these are the, it easier for you. I'm going to talk a lot about what this means for soul caregivers of the night and the primary caregiver during the day, and what you can do to make things a for you. Can have these conversations with people in your life, because they are important conversations. They are conversations I did not have, and I suffered very severely with postpartum depression, and I do think that I could have stopped that had the confidence and how to start these conversations. The single most important bit of information you need to survive this period of time, and this cannot be taken for granted, to understand how to safely go sleep with your baby. Even if you do not intend to, are against it, you will fall asleep accidentally with your baby at least once. Find yourself in that situation in the night, can't do it anymore, understand how to quickly set up a safe co sleeping space. At the caption and I get my information from the Lullaby Trust. Them out.