Hello! Here are 5 things that if you can bring them into your life

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The video provides high-value, actionable psychological advice in a concise, structured format that feels personal and supportive, encouraging high engagement through relatability.

Summary

A psychotherapist shares five mental health tips to help viewers manage their feelings and self-perception. The video focuses on emotional regulation, self-trust, and internal validation.

Structure

1Introduction to 5 life-improving tips
2Tip 1: Feelings are not always facts
3Tip 2: Trusting yourself over others
4Tip 3: Separating mistakes from identity
5Tip 4: Monitoring internal narratives
6Tip 5: Finding internal validation

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Hello! Here are 5 things that if you can bring them into your life they're gonna make your life much easier 1. Accept that not every feeling needs to become a fact you can feel unwanted without actually being unwanted you can feel behind without actually being behind feelings are information but they're not always instructions sometimes a feeling is something that simply needs to be felt rather than something that needs to be acted on you don't have to build a whole story around every feeling that passes through you. 2. Sometimes the lesson isn't trust people less it's trust yourself more you can't control whether someone disappoints you but you can control how you handle it you don't need to become hyper vigilant just to avoid ever being hurt again the goal isn't never to be let down it's to know that you'll be okay if you are. 3. You don't need to turn every mistake into a personality trait you made a bad decision that doesn't mean you're a bad decision maker you handle something badly that doesn't mean you're a bad person a mistake is something that you can do but it's not a definition of who you are you're allowed to make them you're allowed to learn from them and you don't need to make them your identity. 4. You need to start being more careful about what you are repeating to yourself for example: "I'm awkward" "I'm bad at relationships", "I always mess things up". The brain is very good at finding evidence for the stories that we give it sometimes the story that you keep repeating starts to become the lens that you see your life through we need to work on changing that lens make sure that it's a story that you actually want to be a part of 5. Please know that you're allowed to be proud of yourself before anybody else notices external recognition can be great but it shouldn't be the only evidence of something that you are doing well. Not everything meaningful in your life is going to be visible to everyone in it you don't need an audience for your progress to count some of the most important things that you're ever going to experience will come and go very quietly with you on your own know that the validation you give to yourself is the most important anything else is just a bonus alright that's it for now see you bye

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We are soooooooooooo back now with part 6!!! 🤝 5 more tips, steps, hacks - whaaaateeever you wanna call them - that might just make your life a little easier. What they really are, are prompts. Hopefully something in the endless timeline that might just get you thinking about some things that you’ve been meaning to have a think about. Anyway, that was a nice break. Back to it now 🫶 thank you for all the love on the videos. I’ll expand more on this series down the line and spread things into long form as well, but for now I’m so happy to be sharing some mental health adjacent videos that people seem to be getting some positives out of. I can’t ask for anything more than that! #MentalHealth #selfcaretiktok #winterwellness #irishcreators #personalgrowth

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Hello! Here are 5 things that if you can bring them into your life, they're gonna make your life much easier. 1. Accept that not every feeling needs to become a fact. You can feel unwanted without actually being unwanted. You can feel behind without actually being behind. Feelings are information but they're not always instructions. Sometimes a feeling is something that simply needs to be felt rather than something that needs to be acted on. You don't have to build a whole story around every feeling that passes through you. 2. Sometimes the lesson isn't trust people less, it's trust yourself more. You can't control whether someone disappoints you but you can control how you handle it. You don't need to become hyper vigilant just to avoid ever being hurt again. The goal isn't never to be let down, it's to know that you'll be okay if you are. 3. You don't need to turn every mistake into a personality trait. You made a bad decision that doesn't mean you're a bad decision maker. You handle something badly, that doesn't mean you're a bad person. A mistake is something that you can do but it's not a definition of who you are. You're allowed to make them, you're allowed to learn from them and you don't need to make them your identity. 4. You need to start being more careful about what you are repeating to yourself. For example: "I'm awkward", "I'm bad at relationships", "I always mess things up". The brain is very good at finding evidence for the stories that we give it. Sometimes the story that you keep repeating starts to become the lens that you see your life through. We need to work on changing that lens, make sure that it's a story that you actually want to be a part of. 5. Please know that you're allowed to be proud of yourself before anybody else notices. External recognition can be great but it shouldn't be the only evidence of something that you are doing well. Not everything meaningful in your life is going to be visible to everyone in it. You don't need an audience for your progress to count. Some of the most important things that you're ever going to experience will come and go very quietly with you on your own. Know that the validation you give to yourself is the most important, anything else is just a bonus. Alright that's it for now, see you bye.