People treat breakups like they're equal. They're not.

Being dumped vs choosing to end a relationship aren't the same experience. That doesn't mean the person who leaves never hurts. They absolutely can. But the biggest difference is control. When you make the decision to leave, you've often had time to think about it, emotionally detach, and prepare for what comes next. When you're the one being left, your future changes overnight. Don’t even get me started on an avoidant discard or blindsided breakups! I can often tell when someone has always done the dumping and never been dumped because they view breakups very differently (yes, I’m speaking generally). It’s not necessarily about who feels more pain as they are dumpers that are plucking up the courage to leave a toxic partner for example. If you've ever felt like your whole world changed because someone else made a decision for you, you're not alone. What's one thing being dumped taught you that you never expected? #breakups #dumped #avoidantdiscard #relationships #dumpthem