There's someone else

The thing that I now understand about avoidant discard, that I didn't before. When I would share my story, some people would comment and say, he had someone else lined up. He was probably seeing someone else. And I didn't believe that at the time and I didn't really take that on board. But when something ends very abruptly, it can definitely signify that the person's checked out of the relationship, of course. But it can also be there because there's someone else in the picture. I'll never know. And truly do I care to know at this stage? No. It's irrelevant what happened, happened and all my experiences and traumas took place whether someone else was there or not. However, that's exactly how the avoidant discard wants discard. The avoidant wants it to pan out because they're cowardly that they will let you dump them. Treat them and they'll wait for you to put them up. I'm not putting up with them. My ex, I said, if you want to dump me, you're going to do it because I understood that tactic somehow. And if someone never light. Why? That there's many why vague reasons why this was ending. But else that would shift the narrative that they would then continue that they are the victim and you are the villain and that things had to end it or you ended it and therefore the victim. Because had feelings for someone else, they can't admit that. Because then that makes them look bad. And those kind of people, just from my experience alone, don't want to look bad. They always want to look like someone that's really considerate. And actually, someone. To do that to someone, no you're not.