hopefully this scars her for life cause GIRL OW WE DONT HIT IN THIS HOUSE

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Why it worked

The video addresses a common and relatable parenting challenge (toddler hitting) with practical advice and a clear explanation of why typical reactions might be counterproductive. The creator's personal connection to the topic and promise of a follow-up part create engagement.

Summary

A parent coach reacts to a video of a mother scolding her child for hitting. The coach explains that the mother's strong reaction, while seemingly effective in the moment, actually reinforces the behavior by giving the child attention. She emphasizes the need to address the root cause of the hitting and teach emotional regulation skills instead.

Structure

1Reacting to a video of a mother scolding her child for hitting.
2Explaining why the mother's reaction reinforces the behavior.
3Highlighting the importance of addressing the root cause of hitting.
4Suggesting teaching emotional regulation skills as an alternative.
5Promising to show how she handles a similar situation in part 2.

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Call to action

Wait for part 2, how I handle this exact scenario...

On-screen text

SAVAGE PARENT COACH REACTS... 2 steps to stop hitting with a little toddler: LET'S TALK ABOUT ESPECIALLY WITH LITTLE TODDLERS. ME WITH MY 15 MONTH OLD, THIS EXACT SAME SITUATION, HOW I HANDLED IT IN REAL LIFE. WHY WHAT THIS MOM DID, IT'S GOING TO WORK LONG TERM. BE MY SUGGESTION. WHAT SHE DID WAS ESSENTIALLY HAVING A HUGE REACTION TO KIND OF HER LITTLE ONE. HITTING HURTS, RIGHT? THIS IS A VERY COMMON RESPONSE. THE THING THAT ABOUT THIS, AND THAT ACTUALLY SHIFT BEHAVIOR LONG TERM, IS TWOFOLD. NUMBER ONE, DAUGHTER A MASSIVE REACTION. AGE, WHEN LITTLE TODDLERS ARE ESSENTIALLY JUST TESTING BOUNDARIES, TESTING EVERYTHING, CURIOUS, THEIR LITTLE EXPLORERS, TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE WORLD, GIVE A MASSIVE REACTION TO WILL YOU ARE INHERENTLY REINFORCING THAT BEHAVIOR BY GIVING IT IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOUR REACTION IS NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE. THE ATTENTION LIGHTS UP THEIR BRAIN LIKE, OH, THAT AGAIN, EVEN IF IT CAME WITH FEAR AND BEING SCARED. NUMBER TWO, SHE DIDN'T ACTUALLY GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE OF ONE WAS HITTING, WHICH IS ONE OF THE BIGGEST TO PREVENT THIS FROM HAPPENING AGAIN. TO ME, IT DAUGHTER WAS TRYING TO GET HER ATTENTION. SHE WAS TALKING TO THE CAMERA, HER LITTLE ONE. ONE KINDA SMACKS HER FACE TO GET HER ATTENTION TO HER AGAIN. IT WORKED. SHE GOT HER MOM'S ATTENTION RIGHT AWAY. IN A HUGE OUR LITTLE KIDS ARE DOING THINGS EVEN WHEN THEY'RE PRE VERBAL, TALKING. LIKE, I WILL MY LITTLEST ONE. WE HAVE TO START TO ASK YOURSELF, WHAT ARE THEY TO HERE? MAYBE THEY'RE JUST PLAYING AND BEING SILLY. REDIRECT THEM TO ANOTHER WAY TO GET THAT ENERGY OUT. TO GET OUR ATTENTION. WE CAN START TO TEACH THEM A SIGN OR A WORD TO IN A CALM WAY. MAYBE THEY ARE FRUSTRATED OR UPSET OR OVERWHELMED. START TEACHING EMOTIONAL REGULATION SKILLS. HITTING WITH SOMETHING THAT IS MORE APPROPRIATE. Wait for part 2, how I handle this exact scenario... THINGS ARE GONNA DIFFERENCE IN DECREASING HITTING NOW AND AS YOUR TODDLER GETS OLDER, 3, 4, 5, SO THAT IT DOESN'T CONTINUE HAPPENING. SHOW YOU WHAT MY LITTLE ONE.

Original caption

PART 1: handling a little toddler hitting #parentinglittles #emotionalregulation #raisinglittles #motherhoodunfiltered #toddlermom

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Transcript

hopefully this scars her for life cause GIRL OW WE DONT HIT IN THIS HOUSE SAVAGE PARENT COACH REACTS... 2 steps to stop hitting with a little toddler: LET'S TALK ABOUT ESPECIALLY WITH LITTLE TODDLERS. ME WITH MY 15 MONTH OLD, THIS EXACT SAME SITUATION, HOW I HANDLED IT IN REAL LIFE. WHY WHAT THIS MOM DID, IT'S GOING TO WORK LONG TERM. BE MY SUGGESTION. WHAT SHE DID WAS ESSENTIALLY HAVING A HUGE REACTION TO KIND OF HER LITTLE ONE. HITTING HURTS, RIGHT? THIS IS A VERY COMMON RESPONSE. THE THING THAT ABOUT THIS, AND THAT ACTUALLY SHIFT BEHAVIOR LONG TERM, IS TWOFOLD. NUMBER ONE, DAUGHTER A MASSIVE REACTION. AGE, WHEN LITTLE TODDLERS ARE ESSENTIALLY JUST TESTING BOUNDARIES, TESTING EVERYTHING, CURIOUS, THEIR LITTLE EXPLORERS, TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE WORLD, GIVE A MASSIVE REACTION TO WILL YOU ARE INHERENTLY REINFORCING THAT BEHAVIOR BY GIVING IT IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOUR REACTION IS NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE. THE ATTENTION LIGHTS UP THEIR BRAIN LIKE, OH, THAT AGAIN, EVEN IF IT CAME WITH FEAR AND BEING SCARED. NUMBER TWO, SHE DIDN'T ACTUALLY GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE OF ONE WAS HITTING, WHICH IS ONE OF THE BIGGEST TO PREVENT THIS FROM HAPPENING AGAIN. TO ME, IT DAUGHTER WAS TRYING TO GET HER ATTENTION. SHE WAS TALKING TO THE CAMERA, HER LITTLE ONE. ONE KINDA SMACKS HER FACE TO GET HER ATTENTION TO HER AGAIN. IT WORKED. SHE GOT HER MOM'S ATTENTION RIGHT AWAY. IN A HUGE OUR LITTLE KIDS ARE DOING THINGS EVEN WHEN THEY'RE PRE VERBAL, TALKING. LIKE, I WILL MY LITTLEST ONE. WE HAVE TO START TO ASK YOURSELF, WHAT ARE THEY TO HERE? MAYBE THEY'RE JUST PLAYING AND BEING SILLY. REDIRECT THEM TO ANOTHER WAY TO GET THAT ENERGY OUT. TO GET OUR ATTENTION. WE CAN START TO TEACH THEM A SIGN OR A WORD TO IN A CALM WAY. MAYBE THEY ARE FRUSTRATED OR UPSET OR OVERWHELMED. START TEACHING EMOTIONAL REGULATION SKILLS. HITTING WITH SOMETHING THAT IS MORE APPROPRIATE. Wait for part 2, how I handle this exact scenario... THINGS ARE GONNA DIFFERENCE IN DECREASING HITTING NOW AND AS YOUR TODDLER GETS OLDER, 3, 4, 5, SO THAT IT DOESN'T CONTINUE HAPPENING. SHOW YOU WHAT MY LITTLE ONE.