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How I handle hitting with my 15mo

@cassiemomcoach

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The video provides practical, empathetic advice on a common parenting challenge, offering a clear alternative to punishment and demonstrating effective communication strategies for toddlers.

Summary

A parent coach demonstrates how to handle a toddler's hitting by focusing on understanding the underlying need rather than punishment. The coach shows how to de-escalate the situation, block the hitting, and then help the child communicate their needs appropriately, such as asking for water.

Structure

1Introduction to handling hitting
2Demonstration of blocking the hit
3Explaining the underlying need for hitting
4Teaching alternative communication
5Reinforcing positive communication

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How I handle hitting with my 15mo (mom of 4 + parent coach) THANK YOU. THAT WAS VERY THOUGHTFUL OF YOU TO SHARE WITH EVERYONE. Wait for it... he's going to hit me in a second NEED? OH, GET YOUR HANDS ALL DIRTY. Notice I paused and stopped myself from a big reaction. ANY attention fuels the hitting more. THANK And I gently but physically blocked his hands from doing it again. YOU. DO YOU NEED SOMETHING? Hitting is ALWAYS because of an underlying need or emotion. My job is to get curious. GOT YOU A PIZZA. TAKEN AWAY. And help him learn a kinder + more appropriate way to get that need met EVEN when he can't talk. THANKS, BUDDY. NO. WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE? *baby babbling with no idea what he needs yet.* Using context clues I assumed he was thirsty because it was dinner. HMM? ARE YOU FOR SOME MILK, PLEASE, OR DO YOU NEED SOME WATER? DO YOU DO YOU WANT WAWA? WATER? WATER. OKAY, YOU CAN SAY WATER, PLEASE. WAWA, PLEASE. MAMA? This is the reason why punishments don't work. Why fear tactics or timeout are not effective long- term. MAMA, MAMA. WATER, PLEASE. MAMA, PLEASE. They may stop the behavior in the moment, but your little one still doesn't know how to get what they actually need in a kind way. MAMA, PLEASE. MOMMY, YOU DIDN'T GET THE SPOON FOR MY CEREAL. Save this & follow me for more practice respectful parenting YOU OKAY? OH,

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Replying to @Cassie | parent coach now I imagine if I had just punished him for hitting me. He still wouldn’t know or have practiced a kind way of asking for water or milk. Just saying “we do not hit,” or even having a massive reaction to scare your little kid about hitting, doesn’t actually give them the skills to communicate or regularly successfully long-term. We can hold boundaries, but true discipline is about teaching. Follow me for more ⭐️ #parentinglittles #emotionalregulation #raisinglittles #motherhoodunfiltered #toddlertantrum