How I stop my 1.5 YO's tantrum in under 3 minutes as a gentle parent

I’ve had a lot of people ask for real life tantrum examples with younger toddlers, and how I label & validate emotions at this age. It’s much more simplistic than what I do with my older kids, but it’s the same basic formula… Establish the boundary, label their feelings, empathize, and redirect their misbehavior. I get a lot of pushback for teaching my kids to punch the couch instead of a person (“how about teaching NO hitting??”) or to throw pillows instead of throwing breakable things, but this video proves that IT WORKS. Even a 1 YO can learn the difference between items they CAN and CANNOT throw & they can learn to redirect themselves after enough repetition. It may look like I was calm on the outside, but I was getting heated on the inside & my brain didn’t even think of the redirection to throw pillows. But because I have given my 1.5 YO that redirection so many times, she took all of her aggressive energy and went to throw pillows on her own! I was able to give praise, positive reinforcement, and connect with her INSTEAD of punishing and shaming. She still learned the lesson & didn’t get the cup back, but she also learned to turn to a positive replacement behavior. The thing about aggression and externalizing behaviors is you can’t truly extinguish them, but you can redirect those urges into positive outlets. I actually WANT my kids to let out their feelings physically because it’s very healthy, I just want them to do it in a way that won’t hurt anyone. Make sure to follow me for all things REAL LIFE evidence-based gentle parenting & head to the link in my bio or hhsleep.com for more parenting & no-tears sleep training resources 💗 #momtok #gentleparenting #parenting #reallifeathome #caughtoncamera Real gentle parenting Old school parenting Strict parenting Trying gentle parenting Toddler tantrum Viral tantrum