Post by @officialkanecross

You brought her a coffee she did not ask for. By the end of the hour she had folded your laundry or thanked you three sizes too big. You could not have said how, but the books were level again. That is the levelling reflex. It is the automatic move to cancel a debt the second somebody is kind to her, and most women who have it never notice they are doing it. A compliment comes back inside four seconds. A paid lunch gets matched next time. Being given to is the one thing she cannot sit still inside. Somewhere earlier, owing someone was dangerous. Maybe kindness in her house came with a bill attached. Maybe being useful got her kept and being needy got her managed. A child who learns that builds a rule: never let a balance stand overnight. Then the rule outlives the house it was written in. Here is what it quietly costs. Every offer bounces off her, so over the years the offers slow down. Then she decides nobody offers, and the rule gets stronger. When you give her something small and tell her nothing is owed, you are teaching her body that owing you is safe. It will take more than once. She is running an average built over decades. A woman who never lets anyone give to her never finds out who would. @officialkanecross #thelevellingreflex #receiving #submission #domsub #relationshipadvice