FORTUNE

Work-life balance is a lie. It never reconciles. Work and life do not reconcile. Get rid of that. No more work-life balance, it's a lie. I remember when I was working at JPMorgan Chase, I lived far. And I literally could see the janitor cleaning the port authority. That's when you know it's late. And I broke down crying. I called my husband who was a stay-at-home father, a Marine, an engineer, and I broke down and I said, Richard, when I wake up in the morning, I don't see my kids. I don't see my kids, just crying. Now, my husband, who is the only child from Ohio, engineer, Marine, says to me, "Then quit." Those logical men. Logical men. "That's not the point." I was totally looking for a pity party, but he was serious. He was like, "If it's not working for you, it's not working for us." But in that moment, something had to change. My mindset. And so this work-life balance, I was catching an L. I was feeling my husband, my children. I was failing my mom, my dad, my brothers, everyone. I was just not winning, and I needed a win. This diversified portfolio shift, because I am in finance, changed everything. So if you live your life diversified, you tell yourself you only have 100%. You do not have 110%. 100%.