One major milestone that I haven’t seen anyone talk about here, that once you hit, you can rest back and it’s okay, I made it. I know what I’m doing. Dating wise, this is a complete paradigm shift. It’s gonna feel very, very different, and it’s gonna feel way healthier. Okay? And this is a sign that you have transformed into the guy that you’re really trying to be. And that is when you go on dates with women, instead of focusing on, how can I impress her? You focus on, how can I connect with her? You completely evolve from fuck boy to loving husband. You can be a loving husband, fuck boy. You build yourself into something that you actually believe in, to the point where instead of putting on all these masks and male makeup and trying to say the right things and act like the most attractive person, when inside you feel really small, it’s, I love myself. I accept myself perfectly and perfectly, and I’m gonna show up and reveal those flaws and be vulnerable and be myself and invite her to do the same. When you pull this off, bro, dating gets way more relaxing. The sex gets a lot better. Don’t have to harangue and negotiate just to make a date actually happen. And you feel the calm of just being yourself, and then she feels the calm of being herself. This is one of those growth points that you might spend years and years and years in the impress her frame, and then one day it all just clicks for you. And it comes as a byproduct of doing what you need to do in your work. Work, right? Doing what you need to do in your fitness, having strong personal relationships, just building yourself up and having a complete life where a woman fits really nicely at the end of the table as a dessert, as a nice treat. After you accomplish all these things in your life and you’re whole, right? You don’t need female approval. You don’t need to have sex. Able to present your intentions honestly. And there’s such a dearth of masculine love being dolled out in the dating market. If you can actually love a woman from a non needy place, you can love a woman on a one night stand, you can love a woman that you’re married to. Right? Masculine love, it’s. It’s not confined by the dimensions of the label of a relationship. It’s just you showing up, being yourself, connecting and being on the same team as the other human being. Bro, it’s addictive for them. They. They do not get enough of this. You wanna take this to the next logical extreme? Really? We didn’t get enough masculine love either? Like, there’s just a dearth of masculine love and really masculinity in society. And when you develop yourself to a place where you can actually give that freely and expect nothing. In return, you’re gonna get literally everything you want from women. You’re gonna have girls cancel their plans with their friends, rearrange their whole schedule to spend time with you. You’re gonna laugh and enjoy the silliness, just like you did with your first love. And really, it’s all because you learned how to love yourself. Follow for more stuff.
