Here are four random signs that your little boo thang is the one. If you're on the fucking fence, congratulations. You're at the most challenging juncture of a man's life. Go through these four. If it's 0 for 4, 1 for 4, you're probably cooked. 2, 3, 4, we're in a good spot. Very important. Battle tested, and your gut will confirm what you're about to see. Number one, she asks you about your day and genuinely cares. The corollary would be you talk about things besides love is blind. Whatever you're about to buy her or your next trip, she is invested in who the fuck you are. She cares about who you are now, she cares about who you're becoming and she wants to help you get there. And the day by day of that is asking, how the fuck was work today? Number two, she is coachable. If you talk with older, successful men about their wives, they will joke that no wife comes perfect out of the box. This might sound a little controversial, but you gotta kinda massage and work and maybe you're really into meditation. You gotta text her that headspace code, see if she uses it. She does some shit that bothers you. She's talking about her ex. She's maybe, you know, has a male friendship you don't love. If you set a boundary, if you communicate effectively, you're a good leader in the relationship. And she doesn't fucking listen and just keeps doing the same shit ain't gonna teach that old dog new tricks, my friend. There's gotta be some give and take. And she's gotta see you as worthy of giving and change a little bit. There's a J. Cole quote that. It's reminiscent of this situation. I think it goes, don't save her. She don't wanna be saved. She's got to want to be saved. Number three, you can be vulnerable, slash cry in front of her. If you wanna be the tough guy, the guy that never has any fucking shortcomings for his entire freaking life in front of his life partner, then go for it. But, like me personally, trying to crawl up in that bosom like a little baby every once in a while, life's really fucking hard. Do you wanna go home and have that be a safe place at times? You don't wanna be on edge, constantly feel like you're walking on eggshells, being evaluated if you don't feel like you can ever take off the mask. Ask yourself if you wanna live your life without ever taking off the mask. And if you're watching this and that scares the fuck out of you. Might be a good time to try introducing a little bit of that vulnerability into a relationship. No. 4. You gotta have compatible sex drives. There's a cold place that a lot of relationships go to die. And it's a place where the man finds himself begging. And conniving for sex. Sometimes that's a male leadership problem. But, like, genuinely, people just have very different desire levels there. And if it's drastically different, just like, you know, might not be a the forever thing. Those are the four tips, and I would love to hear in the comments what I missed. What are the other sneaky little signs that she is or is not the one? Let me know how you did. And if it's 0 for 4, time to say sayonara. Follow for more sauce.
