Post by @kendraworth

Okay so a lot of you had big FEELINGS about my 6-year-old's chore list 😅 The most common comment was some version of "that's way too much for a little kid" or "you must be so strict." And I get it! If all you heard was the end result, it probably looked like I just handed her a list and expected her to figure it out But what you didn’t hear was all of the scaffolding and work that I had to put in to get her there from the time that she was walking. Teaching independence is actually SO much more work for me right now than just doing it myself. It would take me 30 seconds to wipe the table, but WITH my 4-year-old, it takes 10 minutes, a spilled cup, a second try, and A LOT of patience. That's what scaffolding is. You meet them where they're at, help just enough for them to succeed, and slowly back off as they gain the underlying skills. It takes being consistent (even when you're exhausted) and keeping the tone warm & fun so they actually WANT to help. No yelling or punishments, just lots of time & energy & connection. My oldest had years of this before she could do what you heard in that first video, so this was the intermediate point that my middle is in now. Kids really do want to be capable, we just have to put in the work to get them there. So no, it's not the lazy way. It's the long way 🤍 Make sure to follow me for all things REAL gentle parenting & no-tears sleep training. You can head to hhsleep.com or the 🔗 in my bio to for more parenting & sleep resources #momchats #momtok #momshelpingmoms #disciplined #strictparents How to be a strict parent How to discipline toddlers How to discipline preschoolers Logical consequence examples Examples of logical consequences Trying gentle parent How to be a good parent