Post by @narcissisticpartners

Hi, it's Juliana! This is called weaponized incompetence. It's when someone makes themselves seem incapable of doing something so you do it for them. It's a really common tactic narcissistic partners use. Why? If you had a sink full of dishes and could either wash them by hand or put them in the dishwasher... Which would you choose? Probably the dishwasher, right? Because why do the work yourself when you have something that'll do it for you? That's more or less what's going on here. They see you more as an object or tool than they do a person. So when they have something they don't want to do, they: – Act like they don't know how. – Ask you question after question. – Need you to walk them through every step. – Do it poorly. – Take an unreasonably long time to actually do it. Until eventually, it becomes easier for you to just do it yourself. If you need someone to talk to about all of this, you can always send me a DM or schedule a session with me. My team and I help people heal from narcissistic abuse, and many of us have experienced it ourselves, so we're here if you need us. To your healing, Juliana ❤️‍🩹