Post by @narcissisticpartners

Hi, it's Juliana! I'd like to explain why this can be financial abuse. The problem isn't: “My partner couldn't afford a bill, so I paid it.” That happens in healthy relationships all the time. Sometimes your partner is short on money. Sometimes you cover the gas bill. Sometimes they cover the groceries. Sometimes one person pays more because the other person is going through a difficult month. That's not financial abuse. The problem in this video is around where the money goes. He doesn't have $180 for the gas bill... But he's on his way to a steakhouse. And when she says: “Again?” We learn this isn't the first time she's had to pick up his financial responsibilities. So look at how their money is functioning: His money is available for the things he wants. Her money is expected to cover the things they need. And when his money runs out? She has to “figure it out.” That's where this can cross into financial abuse. So the takeaway here is: You don't have to take someone's money away from them to financially abuse them. You can also financially abuse someone by repeatedly creating financial burdens that they are forced to carry for you. Because over time, one person gets to spend freely while the other person's money gets eaten up keeping both of their lives functioning. If you need someone to talk to about all of this, you can always send me a DM or schedule a session with me. My team and I help people heal from narcissistic abuse, and many of us have experienced it ourselves, so we're here if you need us. To your healing, Juliana ❤️‍🩹